Ladies, whenever you are tempted to think your role in marriage is demeaning, consider the facts.  It is not demeaning to be a helper, since God himself is a helper (see Ps 33:20, 70:5, 115:9).  The order of creation should be an encouragement to you.  God made animals first, then man, and finally, woman.  Although that fact suggests a lot of humorous applications, it’s still a fact.  You were made to be a helper, but the man you help is still responsible.  He is the protector and provider, and you are the helper. 

He is the “point man” that meets the enemy first, but you are guarding his back.  Men and women are different for a reason.  They compliment each other, complete each other, and care for each other because of their differences, not in spite of them.  God made the man alone, then He made a suitable companion for him.  All of this is God’s design and He does all things well.  Yet, marriage problems are everywhere, even in Christian homes.  Did God make a mistake?  Was He wrong to put two incompatible beings in the same kitchen at the same time—with knives at hand?  Impossible.  He makes no mistakes.

Men, more than women, break things before they read the owner’s manual.  Women tend to read the manual so they won’t break things.  That is probably the reason so many women are the spiritual leaders of their homes.  Sadly, when a man breaks something, reading the manual is not his first thought since it’s too late by then.  He just wants to get a new one and not break it in the same way because of his vast experience.  You can model for him the way to look for leadership so he will not demand your help while ignoring God’s.  Rejoice that God made you a helper, because men need help.